“But when you’re being entertained by something, you’re also internalizing the ideas and values it’s putting forward, which is why pop culture is so powerful.”
I hate that, as a feminist, I have to re-iterate this same point a zillion times every time I want to complain about some transphobic/ sexist/ racist/ hateful thing I see in my media viewing. It’s enough to make me want to break through to the insulation in my wall with my forehead.
Yes. Media affects you. It’s not “just” a TV show. It’s not “just” a comic. It’s not “just” a movie. It’s not “just” a joke! If all cultural products are as meaningless as these people seem to think they are, then why do they bother engaging in it?
They’re just so blinded by their privilege that they don’t see the need to open their minds, have a little empathy, and think for one fucking second. They don’t even know what it feels like to have a TV show devalue you based on some incidental part of your identity you have no control over; because these people are white, or male, or cis, or stupid. It’s like the idea that they don’t know everything is this huge personal affront to them, enough that they don’t even want to consider any alien viewpoint. Seriously, fuck people.
"Stop trying to “get it together.” The biggest lie we’re told when we’re growing up is that soon as we’re adults, as soon as we’re in college, finish college, get that job, have that steady income, find that someone special, “find ourselves,” find that perfect house, get that retirement fund, have those children, everything will fall into place. Here’s a secret: it won’t. Every new development in your life, good or bad, big or small, will come with its own very special set of challenges. The sooner you accept that, the better off you’ll be. But the myth is perpetuated throughout life, perhaps now more than ever with happy status updates on Facebook and blushing bride/happy multi-tasking mommy blog posts. What these success stories don’t tell you is what is going on behind closed doors. They don’t tell you that your friend who is so over the moon with her new baby had to apply for food stamps. They don’t tell you that your fantastic, involved professor struggles with depression. They don’t tell you that your happily married friend still has nightmares about her abusive ex. They don’t tell you the cousin who just got that jealousy-inducing job opportunity is thinking of breaking up with his boyfriend of 10 years. What closely interacting with people from all backgrounds on the Internet for over a decade has taught me is that no one “has it together” in the way we think they do. So stop trying to have that as your goal, because you are just setting yourself up for massive failure."
— Nanna Freeman (via 190590)
(Source: thatpassed-away, via nyxknack)